In some pockets of our society it seems not only accepted but expected to complain. I have been keenly aware of this as I have walked along the path of Happiness. Sometimes people do not know how to react when I do not chime in. They have even try to spur me on with “Isn’t [...]

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I am frequently surprised that new clients do not ask more questions before setting an appointment. Going to a therapist is a big deal, whether it is your first time or you’ve spent many an hour on “the couch”. You will be spending your money, your time and most importantly, your hope on a therapist. [...]

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Invictus is the story of Nelson Mandela following his release from prison. After 27 years of wrongful imprisonment it would be very easy for him to be bitter and even revengeful toward his jailers. When he was voted in as president of South Africa he could have used his power to punish his oppressors. Instead, [...]

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In today’s busy world, many of us have to-do lists (myself included) – but what about a NOT to-do list? On the top of my NOT to-do list: Do NOT complain. The average person complains SEVENTY times a day! Do NOT blame. Do NOT shame self Do NOT shame others Do NOT guilt self Do [...]

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I just was told a story by one of my long-time Happiness 101 students. In fact, her attendance record is unblemished. She has been there more than *I* have (I was absent once). She shared with me that she was in the hospital this past week due to fainting spells. The doctors ran many tests [...]

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‘Can’t sleep due to worry? May I suggest the posts “Sleep Your Way to Happiness” and “Worry Efficiently“? Here’s a new technique, instead of laying there, worrying: count your blessings! This employs a number of techniques: First, you are interrupting your negative downward spiral by actively occupying your mind with positives. Contemplating the positives in [...]

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Many people are quick to see what is wrong, rather than what is right. I’ve come to think of people who are quick to see the negative as having strong negative muscles. This is not to say they do not have positive muscles, they are just under-developed. So, the exercises to follow are designed to [...]

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Put the phone down and connect with the people you care about.

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It would be hypocritical for me to tease you about this article, so, I do not watch the news because 1) it focuses primarily on the negative 2) I don’t like being teased 3) studies have shown that the news contributes to depression and 4) there is nothing I can DO with most of the news I hear about. ~Frank

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While doing the holiday thing, I was listening to Christmas music. A short little line in the song “Have Yourself a Merry Little Christmas” caught my ear – “Let your heart be light”. A part of me said “Ho Ho HOLD it!” LET your heart be light? It implies your heart or spirit is already [...]

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