I discovered that the “language of love” that I best “hear” in is acts of consideration. Specifically when someone anticipates my needs and fills them without even asking. It makes me feel very considered. Well today my wonderful wife Debbi really spoke my love language when she offered to pick up my medication for me. It was amazingly sweet and considerate. Much more than being saved the trip to the pharmacy, I really felt loved. What’s YOUR love language and does your S.O. know what it is?

 

Frank Clayton LPC

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Okay, so maybe I am a bit bias. Maybe even a little more than a little bit bias, but I think you will agree with me by the end of this article: You should get a therapist now, rather than later. Therapy helps people to lead happier more productive lives. I think people wait WAY too long to go to therapy – especially couples. Think of therapy as preventative, rather than something to do once you are on fire. My suggestion would be that you think of going to a mental health therapist the way you think of going to the medical doctor – you go occasionally just to check in an ensure that everything is alright. Another good reason to get a therapist sooner than later is because if there comes a time when you REALLY need to talk to a therapist right away, then you have a therapist in place – someone with whom you are comfortable. Imagine how frustrating it would be to really need therapy and go to someone who is not a good fit for you or (as I have known many to do) spend weeks going through insurance to make sure your therapist is actually in your network. There is even more reason to seek a psychiatrist sooner than later. Right now in Salt Lake City, the wait to see a psychiatrist is THREE MONTHS. If you have even a suspicion that you might need someone to prescribe psychotropic medications, make an appointment now (for more info about psychiatrists, see Doctors vs Therapists) Back to therapy: if you have a job, your employer probably has and Employee Assistance Program (EAP) that allows for three to five FREE sessions of therapy per year. Contact your human resources department and tell them you want the phone number of your EAP. They do not need to know why you are calling. In fact, EAP usually also provides legal and financial counseling as well, so it remains confidential. These EAP companies report nothing to your employer. Of course a regular dose of Happiness 101 couldn’t hurt. There is no charge for the class – it is a gift I give every Monday at 7pm. Click here for the upcoming class schedule.

Frank Clayton
Licensed Professional Counselor

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Dead happyOnce upon a time, I thought warnings on my prescription bottles were more of a “guideline” or a helpful suggestion. Then I took psychopharmacology in college and it REALLY scared me because I came to have a much deeper understanding and appreciation for the deadly mixture of alcohol with drugs. It drastically magnifies the effects of the drug. Depending on the drug and the amount of alcohol consumed, the combination IS LETHAL! I am tempted to go off on a long rant about this, but I will spare you the lecture and sum it up concisely: MIXING ALCOHOL AND PRESCRIPTION MEDICATION CAN KILL YOU. PLEASE head the warning. Remember Heath Ledger.
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‘Nuff said
~Frank

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