Yesterday, shortly before my first appointment, I realized my phone was missing. Three possibilities: car, book store or the dumpster. Long story short, it was in a bag in the dumpster. Instead of feeling frustrated for losing it in the first place, I felt grateful and relieved and found myself listing the many reasons I was thankful. Today I am glad I found my phone fast but am also glad to be past the tipping point of happiness, making it easy to rebound.

Frank Clayton LPC

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Got to watch the movie “Happy”. I met the director Roko Belic when I went to the IPPA training in Philly. I missed the screening when I went there but I contacted him and he was kind enough to send me a secret link. We might be screening it here in SLC. It’s very good. ‘Lots of solid information backed up by science. And Sonja Lyubomirsky is in it – so you know it has to be good 🙂

Frank Clayton, the Happy Therapist

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The nice custodian at University of Utah’s Union building. He was SO nice! He offered to help me set up and then when we realized we were in the wrong room (see Positive #1) he personally escorted me to the other side of the (large) building and made sure I was in the right place. He even carried some things! It made a big difference 🙂

Frank Clayton, the Happy Therapist

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In a wonderful show of support, Brian Schiele took a break from his brain storming session over Harvesting Happiness for Heroes to make an appearance at the University of Utah lecture. It was amazing to look out and see him waving and snapping pictures. I feel so blessed.

Frank Clayton, the Happy Therapist

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Katrina Holgate Miller. I got an hour of Katrina Miller all to myself today! What an amazing person and conversationalist. The hour flew! I want more. ‘Looking forward to next time.

 

Frank Clayton, the Happy Therapist

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They are an important part of the food chain. They eat spiders. They evidently also serve as a source of entertainment for both my sister-in-law and her dog.

 

~Frank

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Tonight on my way home, I found myself behind a slow driver. As I am becoming ever more mindful I recognized the feelings that began to swell within my heart and used the 8 steps to Happiness. I became mindful and asked myself whether getting irritated is what I really wanted. When a resounding “no” filled my brain I thought of other reactions I might have. Then I chose to bless the driver and have compassion in my heart recognizing that one day I might drive that slow and would hope that others would have compassion for me. Today I appreciate the slow driver that taught me patience and empathy and gave me another opportunity to demonstrate a new, happier way of thinking.

Frank Clayton, the Happy Therapist

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Okay, so maybe I am a bit bias. Maybe even a little more than a little bit bias, but I think you will agree with me by the end of this article: You should get a therapist now, rather than later. Therapy helps people to lead happier more productive lives. I think people wait WAY too long to go to therapy – especially couples. Think of therapy as preventative, rather than something to do once you are on fire. My suggestion would be that you think of going to a mental health therapist the way you think of going to the medical doctor – you go occasionally just to check in an ensure that everything is alright. Another good reason to get a therapist sooner than later is because if there comes a time when you REALLY need to talk to a therapist right away, then you have a therapist in place – someone with whom you are comfortable. Imagine how frustrating it would be to really need therapy and go to someone who is not a good fit for you or (as I have known many to do) spend weeks going through insurance to make sure your therapist is actually in your network. There is even more reason to seek a psychiatrist sooner than later. Right now in Salt Lake City, the wait to see a psychiatrist is THREE MONTHS. If you have even a suspicion that you might need someone to prescribe psychotropic medications, make an appointment now (for more info about psychiatrists, see Doctors vs Therapists) Back to therapy: if you have a job, your employer probably has and Employee Assistance Program (EAP) that allows for three to five FREE sessions of therapy per year. Contact your human resources department and tell them you want the phone number of your EAP. They do not need to know why you are calling. In fact, EAP usually also provides legal and financial counseling as well, so it remains confidential. These EAP companies report nothing to your employer. Of course a regular dose of Happiness 101 couldn’t hurt. There is no charge for the class – it is a gift I give every Monday at 7pm. Click here for the upcoming class schedule.

Frank Clayton
Licensed Professional Counselor

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