Action for Happiness is a company in the United Kingdom whose sole mission is to spread Happiness across the globe.  They have developed a class called Exploring What Matters.  We will be one of the first classes in the United States and YOU can be part of it!  However, there are only 18 spots available!  There are potentially up to 4,000 people receiving this notification so if you are interested, jump on this right away!  The class is on a donation basis – which is great because we believe everyone deserves to be happy, not just those that can pay big money.  The class will be held at a location in the heart of Salt Lake City with easy freeway access and public transportation (including Trax!).  Class will be held for eight consecutive weeks on Saturdays from May 11th to June 29th from 11:30am to 1:30pm   Click here to sign up now.

Frank Clayton, The Happy Therapist

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Mike and JanetSALT LAKE CITY — Four years ago I called my best friend, Michael. We’ve known each other since grade school and made a point to catch up at least once a month. When I asked how he was doing, he said “Same (stuff), different day.” He was at work. He told me about how he and his girlfriend, Janet, had gone out to dinner and thought how she might be “the one.”

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How would you like to enjoy your food much more while consuming far fewer calories?

Now, before I go any further I must say that I am not a dietician. I don’t even play a dietician on TV. But I do know a thing or two about Happiness. I can tell you that most people eat their food mindlessly, not truly tasting their food. I can also tell you that studies have shown that your enjoyment between your first and second bite of food plummets significantly (Martin Seligman, Authentic Happiness). By the time you get to bites three and four, your mind is probably drifting to the day ahead or the day behind. So you are consuming a lot of food (and calories) with minimal pleasure. Why not try the Happiness Diet? I suppose we could also call it the Mindfulness Diet. Before you partake, look at your food. Notice the details, the contours, the difference from one side of the food to the other. If you won’t be breaking any major laws of protocol, touch your food. Close your eyes. “Listen” with your fingers. Once you have thoroughly examined your cuisine, take a bite of food and savor it. What is its texture on your tongue? Is your tongue having different experiences on the tip vs. the top vs. the sides? Though I am not a doctor either, it is widely known that different parts of the tongue experience food in different ways (see this article on Thinkquest on taste). Is there a smell that wafts from your food? Be sure to savor the aroma as well. You get the idea. There are five senses – use them. Experience the food. Simply by being mindful, you could experience more flavor in one bite than you could otherwise enjoy in an entire meal.

Savoring life experiences is just one of twelve Happiness Habits dished up by Sonja Lyubomirsky in her book, The How of Happiness. Buy it here and/or read my review here. Join us for Happiness 101 to learn how to enjoy life more with a fraction of the effort.

Frank Clayton
Licensed Professional Counselor

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Dead happyOnce upon a time, I thought warnings on my prescription bottles were more of a “guideline” or a helpful suggestion. Then I took psychopharmacology in college and it REALLY scared me because I came to have a much deeper understanding and appreciation for the deadly mixture of alcohol with drugs. It drastically magnifies the effects of the drug. Depending on the drug and the amount of alcohol consumed, the combination IS LETHAL! I am tempted to go off on a long rant about this, but I will spare you the lecture and sum it up concisely: MIXING ALCOHOL AND PRESCRIPTION MEDICATION CAN KILL YOU. PLEASE head the warning. Remember Heath Ledger.
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This is an absolutely amazing gathering of professionals.  Healers for the mind, body and spirit.  We’ve got massage, energy work, Shamanism, Reiki, rolfing, physical therapy, Pilates, Pranic Healing, Theta, sacred geometry reading, quantum NLP, Deeksha Blessings, Reconnecting Healing and much, much, MUCH more!  Over 40 healers will be there to pamper you!   All proceeds go the building fund for the Salt Lake Center for Spiritual Living.   Cost to get in is $5

I will be teaching about Happiness for all four hours!  Each hour of the Happiness class will be different from the last and will cost $20 per hour.  I’ll teach for 40 minutes, give twenty minutes for some one-on-one then back at it again at the top of the hour.  Each hour will be different.  I’ll talk about the myths of happiness, the happiness set-point and perhaps most importantly WHY even when things are good, people don’t feel as happy as they think they should.  Cost for the Happiness class is $20 per person per hour.  Again, all proceeds go to the Center for Spiritual Living.  Feel free to visit their website at

This is THE place to be this Saturday, July 18th from noon to 4pm.  The location is 870 East North Union Avenue, that’s right off of Fort Union and 9th East, tucked behind Hoppers.  See you there!!


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The Healing Arts Fair will beCORS Logo Saturday July 18th 12-4pm.  There will be an AMAZING collection of healers there to offer: Deeksha Blessings, Theta Healing, Massage, Quantum Healing, Reiki, Qi-Gong, Spiritual Healing, Yoga, Resonance Repatterning, American Indian Healing, Pilates, Psychic Readings, Spiritual Healing and food prepared for body mind and spirit. 

I will be there teaching about Happiness including: 

      What Happiness is (and is not)

      Myths of Happiness

      Happiness Set-Point

      Happiness Boost

      Why you are not as Happy as you think you should be

      Happiness Robbers

      How you are not in direct control of your feelings and what to do about it

      Replacing negative habits

Cost to get in: purchase of $5 in tickets which may be used on any of the services listed above.  All proceeds go the building fund for the Center for Spiritual Living.

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laughing girlLast weekend I had the opportunity to watch a true Happiness expert in action.  I was handing out flyers to the “Happy Hour” when she came running at my full speed, jumped, landed firmly on both feet right in front of me and said “HA! HA!”.  It was as if in the sea of people, she recognized a kindred spirit, one that appreciates life on that same plane.  I bent down deeply and responded with the same battle cry of Happiness, “HA! HA!”.  Being an adult and she all of maybe four years old, I tried to engage her in conversation.  “So, what did you have to eat today?”  She giggled and responded with gushing enthusiasm “I don’t know!”  This was said as if it were a silly question – as if her tone said, “Silly man.  It does not matter what I’ve had to eat – it’s in the PAST and is no longer of interest”.   Her mother was now before me.  She had a camera in hand.  I secretly hoped she had caught some of the interaction on film (though knowing that even the top-of-the-line camera could not capture the palpable feelings exchanged between teacher and student).  I offered her a flyer and she took it with a smile then meandered to the next booth. Little Sage, as I have come to refer to her, wandered in that direction as well, but then paused.  She was mesmerized by the site of people twirling wooden rifles.  She stood in the middle of the sidewalk, fixated.  Eyes wide.  Body still.  Then, for apparently no reason, she jumped into the air.  Landing, she continued to watch the riflemen.  Then another jump, then back into observation mode.  After several seconds, she turned to catch up with her mother.  I turned slightly to hand out another flyer.  Out of the corner of my eye, I saw a blond missle coming in at 4 o’clock!  BAM!!  I’d been hit!  The four year old had ran full blast into my thigh, arms wide open, hugging me tightly before suddenly releasing me and running back without a word to rejoin her mother and be enveloped by the swarming crowd. 

I learned SO much about Happiness in those two minutes.  Or should I say she REMINDED me so much about Happiness.  A colleague of mine recently asserted that we are born Happy, then “learn” how to be unhappy.  I do not know if I categorically agree with the statement but I have yet to find anything yet to contradict it.  The quickly passing storm of Happiness, would definately be evidence in favor of my friend’s theory.  When is the last time you jumped into the air (even just a little hop?) just because you CAN.  Are you concerned about what you did, said or ate this morning, yesterday or last year?  Or are you living in the present?  When is the last time you took 30 seconds to just be completely in the moment and allow yourself to feel wonder or awe about the miracles happening all around you?  When is the last time rang out your battle cry of Happiness?  How about even a really enthusiastic hug?  Adults laugh 15 times a day.  Children laugh 400 times a day. We have a lot of catching up to do.  This is the reason I teach Happiness 101 and the “Happy Hour” – to help clear away the clutter and the “shoulds”.  To help you remember.  Remember how to be Happy.

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No.  I have not given up sugar – entirely.  I did commit to not eat anything sugary after 7pm.  At first I thought it would be a piece of cake (pun wasn’t intended, but I like it anyway) but it’s been more challenging than I first believed.  Many fruits have natural sugars – does that wipe them out too?  I decided to keep it reasonable.  Many, many products that you would not consider sugary have sugar in them.  I was hard pressed to find a salad dressing without sugar in it.  Fructose is another word for sugar but it’s more natural (like the aforementioned fruits).  Then you have corn syrup.  What it does mean is no ice cream, cake or most other desserts.  This will be good incentive for me to eat earlier in the day – which doctors typically recommend anyway.

Why did I quit sugar after 7pm?  Well, I’m sure you’ve heard of the “sugar high” and the inevitable crash that comes after.  I’ve had my eye on quitting sugar since I quit caffeine but I know if I try to do too many things at once, I’ll be setting myself up to fail.  So, it is all in the interest of HAPPINESS. Eating sugar and drinking caffeine tend to impact my mood.  So, I’m working on it. 

By the way, I did falter in my efforts to stay caffeine free – but that’s another story for another day.


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