I appreciate emotional pain because first of all, it let’s me know that I’m alive.  It is also the greatest natural motivator for change.  When one is in a significant amount of emotional pain, they are HIGHLY motivated to do something to get out of that emotional pain – even if it means being uncomfortable.  I also appreciate emotional pain because it gives my life contrast.  Using the analogy of weather, if every day were sunny, then it might become easy to take it for granted.  The stormy days help me to appreciate the sunny days all the more.

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A very special friend started seeing Frank after a traumatic and life changing injury. She was severly damaged physically and mentally. She has had to endure multiple surgeries and other medical proceedures. She will be permanently disabled in some areas. Her life has changed forever. The pain, frustration, disappointment and depression are a daily battle.

Frank Clayton is helping her deal with and accept her new life and limits. Frank is a gifted therapist. His skills plus his caring and compassionate manner have saved my friend’s life. He has always supported her and she has come to trust him completely. Her life is better and she is more capable and happy because of Frank.

Thank you for saving my friend, Frank.

By: Dick Cutler

 

 

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Positive #3: Saying “no” more easily. I used to have a real problem saying “no”. I felt that it was my responsibility to “make” other people feel happy. This past week I have said “no” a lot and I realized that all this Positive Psychology stuff has really changed me. Now I feel an appropriate amount of angst about saying “no”. I can empathize as to why the other person is upset or disappointed but I don’t feel the urge to rescue any more. Instead, I know the other person is strong enough to withstand the disappointment and that they will endure – just as we all do. I think part of this lesson was realizing from my experiences in the past and just how much more pain is caused by NOT saying “no”. I would much rather endure five minutes of discomfort than days, weeks, months or even years of regret of not using that short but powerful word, “no”. Today I recognize the importance of saying “no” as a life skill and that sometimes when saying “no” to someone else, I am saying “yes” to myself.

Frank Clayton, the Happy Therapist

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Mowed the lawn this morning. SPF 45 saved me. I am really glad I remembered. Using it will allow me to sleep well tonight, avoid pain and who knows might avoid the big C. Writing this reminded me of a song I really like: “Everybody’s Free to Wear Sunscreen” http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xfq_A8nXMsQ&feature=youtube_gdata_player

Frank Clayton LPC

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