Positive 1
I am cooking another pork shoulder butt to freeze after . I can make so many different meals with it and I love the meat.

Positive 2
It was moms (and dads) 64 anniversary today we went to the cemetery and I took her for a nice meal. Bitter sweet …. she really wants to join him.

Positive 3
I found out some cute/tmi tidbits about their wedding day and honeymoon. They really loved each other always. We were raised to know we were the kids and they came first to each other.

By: Kathie

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Positive 1

Lunch with a friend I don’t see often but our conversation is always lively and personal.

Positive 2

Got to hold that brand new baby, oh the feelings when you hold any baby especially one you have loved for months before she got here.

Positive 3

When I got home the dogs reaction to me and the “smell” of the baby on me. They seem so concerned. Like they know. I remember how Maddie my past hound dog would come up and cry loud cries after I would hold a baby. It is amazing the common threads among the living.

By: Kathie

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Positive 1

That wind didn’t do any damage to my yard though some of the neighbors weren’t so lucky. Usually it is my house where the damage is.

Positive 2

Went to my nieces dance recital, she is now a dance teacher and was so great with the kids. You could tell how much they loved her.

Positive 3

I am hoping we finally got the swamp cooler fixed once and for all, for this year.

By: Kathie

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Since meeting Frank Clayton, I have been taught to recognize the things in my life that needed to be addressed. How to feel the emotions that I never let myself feel. And most importantly, how to cope with all the people, “some loved, most not even liked” in my life. 
With the guidance and support, I’ve received from Frank Clayton. I’ve learned to appreciate the consequences of my action’s. (Before they become a detriment to my own well being).
Sincerely
Ms. Becky E. 

By: Becky

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I discovered that the “language of love” that I best “hear” in is acts of consideration. Specifically when someone anticipates my needs and fills them without even asking. It makes me feel very considered. Well today my wonderful wife Debbi really spoke my love language when she offered to pick up my medication for me. It was amazingly sweet and considerate. Much more than being saved the trip to the pharmacy, I really felt loved. What’s YOUR love language and does your S.O. know what it is?

 

Frank Clayton LPC

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Without going into ugly detail, today I was reminded how ugly loved ones can be to one another. I am so grateful that no one I loved ever deliberately tried to hurt me that much. While I wish this had never happened to my friend, it makes me glad that a (previously) unthinkable hurt to that depth has never been pointed in my direction.

Frank Clayton LPC

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Report from IPPA Conference, Day 3

Wow! What an absolutely amazing day! In case you’re just “tuning in”, today is day 3 of the 2nd Congress of the International Positive Psychology Association.
Here are the highlights:

  • Barbara Fredrickson (author of my #2 pick on Happiness, Positivity) talked about Love
  • Meeting Todd Kashdan and (what may be his last) talk at IPPA
  • Possible collaboration with positive psychologist and local, Lynn Johnson
  • Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy with a Positive Spin
  • Positive Computing
  • Meeting Jane McGonigal and using her on-line game to enhance Happiness 101
  • How much you think you can do something effects whether (and how hard) you try *
  • The use of strengths in therapy – the intermediate lesson *
  • Gala and the National Constitution Center *

* I will report on these tomorrow.

It was much cooler today. A blessing for my walk to my third download of information in the realm of positive psychology, a.k.a. Happiness! As I walked through City Hall in (literally) the heart of Philadelphia, I hummed a little tune. I was distracted by the richness and variety of the people as I walked. Per haps distracted enough by the suits, the homeless, the street venders, the skaters and the provocative dress, the song’s lyrics did not bubble to the surface until in the shadow of the Downtown Marriott. I murmured, “All you need is love. Bump-ba bump-ba bump. All you need is love. Bump-ba bump-ba bump. All you need is love, love – love is all you need.” As I realized I was humming a Beatles standard, I also realized that the topic of Barbara Fredrickson’s talk was “Love: A new lens on the science of thriving” Continue reading Report from IPPA Conference, Day 3

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Report from IPPA Conference, Day 2

Day two of the 2nd Congress of the International Positive Psychology Association was simply amazing.  I learned SO much!  At one point I laughed to my friend “Teacher!  My brain is full!”  Here’s a report of the day’s events:

It began with Ed Deci speaking about self-determination and its relationship to positive psychology – in other words: the self-fulfilling prophecy.  He showed scientific proof that believing that you are doomed and things will never get better can actually bring that about.  Using a simple analogy (of my own), if one is drowning and they really don’t think anyone will come to rescue them, they can behave based on this belief by not paddling and dying before help could arrive.  But Deci really wowed the crowd when he reported that studies repeatedly proved that external rewards kill off intrinsic motivation.  For instance, when we try to control our children either by giving them a reward for doing well (the carrot) or punishing them when they do not do well (the stick), we inadvertently are hindering our child’s innate love of learning!  You can bet I will be blogging more about this. Continue reading Report from IPPA Conference, Day 2

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Frank arrives at IPPA

 

It is very late (1:30am here in Philadelphia) so today’s report will probably be fairly short, but I have SO many exciting things to share with you!  Today was the first day of the 2nd Congress of the International Positive Psychology Association.  I was SO excited as I entered the downtown Marriott for the first time.  I saw a sign directing me up…. up…. (and away!)  Once in the right place, registration was a snap.  I was handed my IPPA bag and envelope (I felt like Charlie from Willie Wonka and the Chocolate Factory).
One great surprise is that tomorrow (Sunday, July 24th) the IPPA is holding Special Interest Groups (SIGs) during the lunch hour.  There were several to choose from but I must say that I was happily shocked to see that Barbara Fredrickson will be hosting one of these SIGs.  She is the author of Positivity, which is my second highest recommended book (next to Sonja Lyubomirsky’s book, The How of Happiness).  She will be talking on Monday and will be closing out the conference with Richard Davidson on Tuesday, but to get Barbara in small venue is quite a treat! Continue reading Report from IPPA Conference, Day 1
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