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Today I was grateful that when giving challenging news, I was met with kindness, understanding and compassion. Instead of feeling we were on opposite sides, we quickly found common ground.
Frank Clayton LPC
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Happy Therapist Frank Clayton with SuperBetter Hero Jane McGonigal
To be perfectly honest, I was so excited about my exchange with Jane McGonigal, I had trouble focusing in the next workshop (which I was running late for since I had been stalking Jane). Too bad too because the talk focused on self-efficacy. This is not a measurement of how well you can do something, but a measurement of how well you THINK you will do something. Obviously if you do not think you are capable of climbing from the hole of depression, then that will effect how hard you try (if you try at all). The presenter was heralded as an expert with so many accolades, the person introducing him had to skip that or there would have been no time for the presentation itself. He was well-polished with Powerpoint slides popping about every minute. However, there was virtually no interaction with the audience – not even at the end. The information itself was well-researched and thorough – TOO thorough. I am a pretty smart guy but this stuff was even over my head. I am grateful that I will have the opportunity to later go over the slides again and hopefully be able to better absorb it. One thing is clear: our self-efficacy is a very important piece of motivation, especially when it comes to happiness. One thing I did get out of the talk is that self-efficacy can be measured and improved upon. Continue reading Report from IPPA Conference, Day 3.5
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Tonight on my way home, I found myself behind a slow driver. As I am becoming ever more mindful I recognized the feelings that began to swell within my heart and used the 8 steps to Happiness. I became mindful and asked myself whether getting irritated is what I really wanted. When a resounding “no” filled my brain I thought of other reactions I might have. Then I chose to bless the driver and have compassion in my heart recognizing that one day I might drive that slow and would hope that others would have compassion for me. Today I appreciate the slow driver that taught me patience and empathy and gave me another opportunity to demonstrate a new, happier way of thinking.
Frank Clayton, the Happy Therapist