To be perfectly honest, I was so excited about my exchange with Jane McGonigal, I had trouble focusing in the next workshop (which I was running late for since I had been stalking Jane). Too bad too because the talk focused on self-efficacy. This is not a measurement of how well you can do something, but a measurement of how well you THINK you will do something. Obviously if you do not think you are capable of climbing from the hole of depression, then that will effect how hard you try (if you try at all). The presenter was heralded as an expert with so many accolades, the person introducing him had to skip that or there would have been no time for the presentation itself. He was well-polished with Powerpoint slides popping about every minute. However, there was virtually no interaction with the audience – not even at the end. The information itself was well-researched and thorough – TOO thorough. I am a pretty smart guy but this stuff was even over my head. I am grateful that I will have the opportunity to later go over the slides again and hopefully be able to better absorb it. One thing is clear: our self-efficacy is a very important piece of motivation, especially when it comes to happiness. One thing I did get out of the talk is that self-efficacy can be measured and improved upon. Continue reading Report from IPPA Conference, Day 3.5→
Day two of the 2nd Congress of the International Positive Psychology Association was simply amazing. I learned SO much! At one point I laughed to my friend “Teacher! My brain is full!” Here’s a report of the day’s events:
It began with Ed Deci speaking about self-determination and its relationship to positive psychology – in other words: the self-fulfilling prophecy. He showed scientific proof that believing that you are doomed and things will never get better can actually bring that about. Using a simple analogy (of my own), if one is drowning and they really don’t think anyone will come to rescue them, they can behave based on this belief by not paddling and dying before help could arrive. But Deci really wowed the crowd when he reported that studies repeatedly proved that external rewards kill off intrinsic motivation. For instance, when we try to control our children either by giving them a reward for doing well (the carrot) or punishing them when they do not do well (the stick), we inadvertently are hindering our child’s innate love of learning! You can bet I will be blogging more about this. Continue reading Report from IPPA Conference, Day 2→
If you said “I love you” in Chinese, your mate may not understand what you said. Take that analogy and apply it to how we say “I love you” in our behavior. Are you and your mate speaking the same love language?