I don’t usually tip my hand about what we’ll be doing at the Happiness Socials but maybe I’m just too excited to contain myself about showing a movie at the Social which will include discussion by the attendees. It’s a rare opportunity – those are my favorite kind! I will be sharing a lot of tips about Happiness and that is something I always look forward to. Here’s the link should you want to join us. We have 47 RSVPd so far. http://www.meetup.com/The-Salt-Lake-Happiness-Group/events/84877242/

Frank Clayton LPC

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I always have stuff to do, so boredom is a luxury to me. So every Sunday I strive to feel bored. This allows me to truly feel the passage of time. Experiencing boredom helps me appreciate being busy and gives me an opportunity to empathize with people who feel that same emotion. Boredom is also feedback to me that I need variety and/or motivates me to act. Today I pause to appreciate the feeling of boredom.

Frank Clayton LPC

 

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Where would we be without buttons? Literally falling apart at the seams. As I imagine a world in which suddenly all the buttons disappeared, it helps me to appreciate just how important buttons really are. We would… also miss out on the opportunity to use them as a fashion statement. I’m not even talking about buttons of the political, mechanical or belly variety – I will save those positives for another day. I appreciate the ease and simplicity of the invention of the button and how it makes our life so much better.

Frank Clayton LPC

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There have been many times that I have dropped something on my toe, only to be deflected by the mighty shell of my toenail. Not for me, but I know the toenail is an opportunity on the body to decorate (such as with nail polish). Some people even do miniature murals. I suppose a long toenail could be used as a kind of weapon. Lastly, the growth of my toenails give me an opportunity to get reacquainted with my feet on a regular basis 🙂

 

Frank~The Happy Therapist

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If you missed the first half of this post, please click here.  If you’d prefer to start at day one, click here.

Happy Therapist Frank Clayton with SuperBetter Hero Jane McGonigal

To be perfectly honest, I was so excited about my exchange with Jane McGonigal, I had trouble focusing in the next workshop (which I was running late for since I had been stalking Jane).  Too bad too because the talk focused on self-efficacy.  This is not a measurement of how well you can do something, but a measurement of how well you THINK you will do something.  Obviously if you do not think you are capable of climbing from the hole of depression, then that will effect how hard you try (if you try at all).  The presenter was heralded as an expert with so many accolades, the person introducing him had to skip that or there would have been no time for the presentation itself.  He was well-polished with Powerpoint slides popping about every minute.  However, there was virtually no interaction with the audience – not even at the end.  The information itself was well-researched and thorough – TOO thorough.  I am a pretty smart guy but this stuff was even over my head.  I am grateful that I will have the opportunity to later go over the slides again and hopefully be able to better absorb it.  One thing is clear: our self-efficacy is a very important piece of motivation, especially when it comes to happiness.  One thing I did get out of the talk is that self-efficacy can be measured and improved upon. Continue reading Report from IPPA Conference, Day 3.5

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Report from IPPA Conference, Day 3

Wow! What an absolutely amazing day! In case you’re just “tuning in”, today is day 3 of the 2nd Congress of the International Positive Psychology Association.
Here are the highlights:

  • Barbara Fredrickson (author of my #2 pick on Happiness, Positivity) talked about Love
  • Meeting Todd Kashdan and (what may be his last) talk at IPPA
  • Possible collaboration with positive psychologist and local, Lynn Johnson
  • Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy with a Positive Spin
  • Positive Computing
  • Meeting Jane McGonigal and using her on-line game to enhance Happiness 101
  • How much you think you can do something effects whether (and how hard) you try *
  • The use of strengths in therapy – the intermediate lesson *
  • Gala and the National Constitution Center *

* I will report on these tomorrow.

It was much cooler today. A blessing for my walk to my third download of information in the realm of positive psychology, a.k.a. Happiness! As I walked through City Hall in (literally) the heart of Philadelphia, I hummed a little tune. I was distracted by the richness and variety of the people as I walked. Per haps distracted enough by the suits, the homeless, the street venders, the skaters and the provocative dress, the song’s lyrics did not bubble to the surface until in the shadow of the Downtown Marriott. I murmured, “All you need is love. Bump-ba bump-ba bump. All you need is love. Bump-ba bump-ba bump. All you need is love, love – love is all you need.” As I realized I was humming a Beatles standard, I also realized that the topic of Barbara Fredrickson’s talk was “Love: A new lens on the science of thriving” Continue reading Report from IPPA Conference, Day 3

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Okay.  This is the third (and final) installment of my adventure.  If you’re just now “tuning in”, I suggest you start back at the beginning.

So, as I continued to meander home with three 4″x4″x12′ posts sticking out the back of my wife’s SUV, I passed and admired many a happy home (AEB: well manicured lawns, beautiful decor and colorful flower-beds).  After driving by the home pictured here, I literally said “Wow!” out loud to myself.  Then I thought “A ‘Wow!’ deserves a stop.  So, I put it into reverse to rest in front of the beautiful home.  As I did so, I noticed three people standing deep in the driveway, who looked in my direction.  I thought to myself, “If I was standing in my driveway and saw an unfamiliar SUV with the back hatch open and boards sticking out the back backing up, I would probably meander in that direction to see exactly what was going on”.  So, as I leaned across the seat and snapped a picture with my iPhone, the owner came into sight.  “Oh oh!  I’m pinched!”  I’d been caught openly admiring the guy’s house!  Do I speed off?  There is, after all, NO WAY for him to catch my license plate (it was facing skyward – the hatch was open, remember?).  But wait a minute – I’m the happy therapist!  How could I possibly miss an opportunity to give someone a sincere compliment.  So, I greeted his puzzled face with a warm smile.  “Hello!”  (Side note:  I just caught myself smiling as I write this)  His “Hello” back was laced with bewilderment but I was quite open with the stranger.  I told him I was forced to take side-streets since the 4″x4″s were too long for my wife’s SUV and I was taking the opportunity to enjoy the beautiful homes along the way.  I told him about my “Wow!”.  We both knew it was a little weird but neither of us cared enough to stop us from expressing gratitude for the beautiful day, the comforts of modern life and the amazing opportunities this country gives us to live so affluently.  I told him a bit about my retaining wall project and asked him about the landscaping.  He told me how the beautiful plants and flowers had come to fruition and how he does indeed feel lucky to live in such a beautiful place.  Before the conversation turned overtly awkward we wished one another a good summer.  In parting, I told him I hope that he appreciates living in his home every day.  We parted with a wave, a smile and shared appreciation for another beautiful day.

Frank Clayton, the Happy Therapist

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www.GivesMeHope.com is a wonderful simple, straight-forward opportunity, giving  people a forum to spread optimism.  People share (very) short stories describing circumstances and situations that give them hope.  They also have a wonderful iPhone application, so if I only have a few minutes, I can tune in and get a Happiness Boost.  Today, I feel grateful that I found a place on the internet that gives ME hope.

Frank Clayton, the Happy Therapist

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