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Enjoyed my time with my sis and my mom tonight. She gave mom her nook so she could get on Facebook and email it. It made such a difference in her out look.

Positive 2

Though frigid outside it sure was beautiful and the contrast with the snow on the mountains created skylines I hadn’t seen before.

Positive 3

My dogs were so cute this morning each coming up in the bed and laying their head on my shoulder looking into my face. Such a cozy little family I have.

By: Kathie

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Positive #1 Ingress!  I have been thoroughly enjoying this game!  It gives me something to look forward to, I get opportunities to get our and walk and also see parts of Salt Lake and Utah that I’ve never seen before.  It also gives me a chance to help team mates (in the broad sense) but also team mates (in the more personal sense).  It’s an international game, so I feel like I am part of something much bigger.  It also gives me a chance to use strategy and helps to keep me sharp.  ‘Love it!  

Positive #2 Costco cake!  ‘Went to a one year old’s birthday party yesterday.  The host really went all out.  I was quite impressed.  The cake was from Costco.  It tasted absolutely amazing!  Moist and delicious.   I enjoyed it so much, I took a second piece and raved so much the host sent me home with more.  Knowing that there is delicious cake in the world gives me something to look forward to – and I have found that that always helps my happiness.

Positive #3: Positives.  I have gotten away from doing my positives and have really felt it.  I am very glad to be back to doing them.  I can already feel a boost in my mood.  I enjoy the opportunity to ask myself “What’s going RIGHT?”  I also enjoy sharing my positives with friends both on and off Facebook.  It gives us things to talk about and often they will share what is going right in their life as well.  I’ve also received feedback from strangers that reading my positives helps them to see what is going right in their own life.  That’s a lot of pay off for a few minutes a day!

 

Frank Clayton, the Happy Therapist

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You know I am a very busy person and sometimes it is fun to just do something that’s completely frivolous. Today I discovered “JetSet Secrets” here on FB. I must say I haven’t had that much fun finding objects in a picture since I was a kid. The storyline is very pretty cool and the graphics are great too. The best part was enlisting the help of my honey, who just HAD to cuddle up close – you know, to get a good look at the screen and help out. Hey, anything that brings me and my honey that close deserves its own positive. 😉

Frank Clayton LPC

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There are a few things I have been trying to make sure I do every day, but “shoulding” on myself has not been working. I am glad to say I have found something that works – a simple concept I learned as a kid: you don’t get to play until you get your chores done. So, I paired the three things I want to get done with three things I want to do. … So now I clean for at least 5 minutes before I play iPhone games, I journal for at least 5 minutes before I can go on Facebook (on my phone) and I check my to-do list before I do anything else on the computer. To make sure do this last one, I even changed the password on my laptop to special memory jogger to remind me. It feels amazing and empowering to know I have forged a system to make my life work.

Frank Clayton LPC

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Today I received the rest of the pictures from the January Happiness 101 class. It brought back a lot of great memories and now I get to post them too so we can share in the experience all over again. I feel truly blessed to have shared it with such an amazing group of people. Today I appreciate the person that E-mailed the pictures to me, the people in the pictures, the people not in the pictures and Facebook for giving me an easy way to share them.

Frank Clayton LPC

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Article published in KSL by Frank Clayton, LPC

SANPETE COUNTY — As families gathered in the auditorium of North Sanpete High School in Mt. Pleasant, Utah, they began to discuss the recent rash of suicides in Sanpete County in December of 2011. The small gathering of people were able to recall six suicides in just the last three weeks. The consensus was swift and unanimous: “It has to stop.”

In record time, the small band of citizens planned a candlelight vigil to raise awareness of the growing problem in Sanpete County. Sisters volunteered to organize the vigil, a brother created a Facebook page, a therapist started a grief group and an army of one delivered flyers from one end of the county to the other. The press was contacted.

The mission: Break the silence. The message: Talk about suicide. Ask the question, “Are you suicidal?” Get help.

Utah needs a lot of it. Recently, the Center for Disease Control revealed that Utah ranks No. 1 in terms of the number of residents contemplating suicide. The Utah Department of Health Violence and Injury Prevention Program reported that Utah has the eighth highest rate of suicidefor adults in the nation, and suicide is the second leading cause of death for Utahns ages 15- 19.Therural areas have a significantly higher suicide rates: namely Sevier, Piute, Wayne, Tooele, Carbon, Emery, Weber and Morgan Counties as well as the Glendale, Ben Lomond and Tricounty areas.

The numbers are staggering, but the grief etched into the faces of those people at North Sanpete High School was overwhelming.

Two weeks later, I stood before the Main Library in Mt. Pleasant, adding my candle to the light of nearly 100 residents of Sanpete County. As with all tragedies, they want to know why — why are their loved ones dying? It’s a fair question with an unfair answer: We do not know.

What we do know is that suicide is preventable.

We know what to watch fordepression, drug or alcohol use, moodiness, irritability, giving away prized possessions, anger, isolation, recklessness and language indicating hopelessness, feeling trapped, and considering suicide as an option. We know that a person who takes their life has usually had a crisis within two weeks and is likely struggling with one or more problems with things like physical health, employment, finances, with the law or at school. We also know that there is often easy access to firearms and pills.

We know that help is a phone call away: 1-800- SUICIDE (1-800-784-2433), 1-800-273-TALK (1-800-273-8255) and the Trevor Project hotline for LGBTQ teens at 866-488- 7386.

We also know that when one person takes their life, it can lead others to follow suit. A young woman at the candlelight vigil shared that she attempted suicide two weeks after her cousin died by suicide. She said, “I thought if he could do it, so could I.”

As counselor Monte Hauck said, “People simply don’t know how to handle things, so they try to take care of a problem the only way they could.”

It is true. When one is thinking of taking their own life, they might see it as the only option — the only way to make the pain stop. This is a result of what positive psychologists call a downward spiral. The further down the hole one goes, the fewer options they perceive — even though, objectively, there are many, many, many alternatives to suicide.

Science has revealed a shockingly simple antidote to the downward spiral: counting your blessings. When one is in the clutches of the downward spiral, pessimism is rampant. By identifying a few positives, one can start to realize that life is not so bad and there is hope. The journey of the upward spiral begins.

Research has proven the pull of an upward spiral to be just as powerful as a downward spiral. Using the “three good things” intervention, the father of positive psychology Martin Seligman helped 94 percent of his depressed participants rise from the level of severely depressed to either moderately or mildly depressed in only 15 days. Considering that this was the only intervention used in the study and that it takes only a few minutes a day, the results are nothing short of miraculous.

This exercise is a staple of Happiness 101, a class using methods proven by empirical research to restore hope, lift depression and offer alternatives to suicide. The free class —which is now awebinar, also offered free of charge to help reduce suicide in Utah — uses simple yet scientifically-proven methods and techniques to help those in the grips of depression see that there is light at the end of the tunnel. For instance, when one makes a pessimistic statement, using the technique of disputation quickly and easily loosens the grip of pessimism. If one thinks, “I’m doomed,” and that thought goes unchecked, then one will have the emotional experience of hopelessness. However, if one simply asks oneself, “Is that really true?” the dark clouds of pessimism are easily broken, allowing hope to shine through.

There is hope. Suicide is preventable. If you are thinking of suicide, please call 1-800-SUICIDE.

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As I scrolled through my FB newsfeed this morning, I was struck by the amazing, strong, creative, insightful, compassionate people with whom I have surrounded myself. I am truly blessed to have you in my life. Thank you for helping me to be a better person.

 

Frank~The Happy Therapist 

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