Positive 1

I enjoyed my busy afternoon at work see clients. I really enjoy seeing them and I was up east so out of most of the pollution.

Positive 2

I am adjusting to my new standing way of being on the computer. I still need more adjusting but I feel physically better, it is amazing the subtle changes that are taking place in just a few days.

Positive 3

Found a tiny bit of unclaimed money from a previous old employer. Yea every bit helps once I get it claimed.

By: Kathie

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Positive #1: Irresponsibility.  Occassionally giving myself permission to be irresponsible means I get to PLAY.  It means I get to do only what I want to do.  Today I exercised my right to irresponsibility by CHOOSING not to go to my peer supervision group.  This allowed me some down time, some play time and a chance to be (dare I say it?) RESPONSIBLE in other areas (mowed the lawn).  Right now I’m going to be irresponsible by

Positive #2: The sprinkler system is broken.  I appreciate this situation because it gives me an opportunity to exercise my problem-solving skills.  Because of this, I tidied up the area in and around the sprinkler box – so it looks nicer.  It gave me the opportunity to go up and down the stairs a few times, thus getting a little exercise.  I will get the chance to use my Angie’s List subscription to find someone to fix it.  Finally, I will have the chance to put bread on someone’s table by employing them to take care of it.  I also really appreciate that there are professionals I can contact that can easily do what I either will or cannot do.

Positive #3: Back-up drives.  I really appreciate the back-up drives I purchased to keep everything, well, backed-up.  It’s great having two of them in two different places, so I know that even if there was a fire, one of them would survive.  This gives me peace of mind.  It’s also an ideal place to store all my music after ripping virtually our entire music collection.  If needed, they are also easily transportable and easy to plug into someone else’s computer.


Frank Clayton, The Happy Therapist

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There are a few things I have been trying to make sure I do every day, but “shoulding” on myself has not been working. I am glad to say I have found something that works – a simple concept I learned as a kid: you don’t get to play until you get your chores done. So, I paired the three things I want to get done with three things I want to do. … So now I clean for at least 5 minutes before I play iPhone games, I journal for at least 5 minutes before I can go on Facebook (on my phone) and I check my to-do list before I do anything else on the computer. To make sure do this last one, I even changed the password on my laptop to special memory jogger to remind me. It feels amazing and empowering to know I have forged a system to make my life work.

Frank Clayton LPC

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Report from IPPA Conference, Day 3

Wow! What an absolutely amazing day! In case you’re just “tuning in”, today is day 3 of the 2nd Congress of the International Positive Psychology Association.
Here are the highlights:

  • Barbara Fredrickson (author of my #2 pick on Happiness, Positivity) talked about Love
  • Meeting Todd Kashdan and (what may be his last) talk at IPPA
  • Possible collaboration with positive psychologist and local, Lynn Johnson
  • Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy with a Positive Spin
  • Positive Computing
  • Meeting Jane McGonigal and using her on-line game to enhance Happiness 101
  • How much you think you can do something effects whether (and how hard) you try *
  • The use of strengths in therapy – the intermediate lesson *
  • Gala and the National Constitution Center *

* I will report on these tomorrow.

It was much cooler today. A blessing for my walk to my third download of information in the realm of positive psychology, a.k.a. Happiness! As I walked through City Hall in (literally) the heart of Philadelphia, I hummed a little tune. I was distracted by the richness and variety of the people as I walked. Per haps distracted enough by the suits, the homeless, the street venders, the skaters and the provocative dress, the song’s lyrics did not bubble to the surface until in the shadow of the Downtown Marriott. I murmured, “All you need is love. Bump-ba bump-ba bump. All you need is love. Bump-ba bump-ba bump. All you need is love, love – love is all you need.” As I realized I was humming a Beatles standard, I also realized that the topic of Barbara Fredrickson’s talk was “Love: A new lens on the science of thriving” Continue reading Report from IPPA Conference, Day 3

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Report from IPPA Conference, Day 2

Day two of the 2nd Congress of the International Positive Psychology Association was simply amazing.  I learned SO much!  At one point I laughed to my friend “Teacher!  My brain is full!”  Here’s a report of the day’s events:

It began with Ed Deci speaking about self-determination and its relationship to positive psychology – in other words: the self-fulfilling prophecy.  He showed scientific proof that believing that you are doomed and things will never get better can actually bring that about.  Using a simple analogy (of my own), if one is drowning and they really don’t think anyone will come to rescue them, they can behave based on this belief by not paddling and dying before help could arrive.  But Deci really wowed the crowd when he reported that studies repeatedly proved that external rewards kill off intrinsic motivation.  For instance, when we try to control our children either by giving them a reward for doing well (the carrot) or punishing them when they do not do well (the stick), we inadvertently are hindering our child’s innate love of learning!  You can bet I will be blogging more about this. Continue reading Report from IPPA Conference, Day 2

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https://join.me/ My friend showed me this amazing little site. It allows another person to join you on your computer in about 30 seconds. Not only that, you can share control of the mouse. I was trying to tell my wife about something on Ancestry.com and instead of coaching her to where I was, I just had her join.me. Awesome.


Frank Clayton, the Happy Therapist

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When my computer died today, I felt very grateful that I had both the time and the means to venture out to buy a new one. Out of my element for computer shopping, I talked to reps at Sam’s Club and Best Buy and discovered a whole new level of speed past the Pentium chips (the i3 and the i5). Not wanting to rely solely on salesmen, I called both my wife and best friend to consult. Within two hours after researching and consulting, I bought a brand new HP that was exactly what I wanted (i5) which was on sale for $150 off at Sam’s Club. Were it not for my new HP, would not be sharing this positive with you now 😉

Frank Clayton, the Happy Therapist

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