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Happy March so glad the tough part of winter should be behind us
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I saw so many people smoking and coughing today and I was bowled over with how grateful I am I quit smoking and don’t have that monkey on my back. It looked so horrible and everyone looked so sick and I doubt I would even be here with the damage it caused me had I continued so glad.
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Had a good busy day at work . That always feels good to feel productive
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BBQ with a couple of sisters and their families.

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I was looking at the lack of what I have so I really noticed what I am grateful for. Reminded myself sometimes energy levels, hormones or bad sleep can affect your mood.

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I have a lamp in my room that I thought was broke for months and found out that the plug just came loose. For some reason the light from that lamp makes me feel good.

By: Kathie

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Great day working in the yard and walking the parkway. Perfect.

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My dog was happy to get out she was jumping circles. Poor other dog doesn’t know how happy she was to stay home. (she hates to walk once we get there).

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My nephew who put together a mini trampoline that the dogs like to sleep on and I bounce on once in a while, they are a bugger to get  so I appreciate him.

By: Kathie

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Car fixed, cooler fixed, sprinklers fixed (I hope) that is a lot of chores off my plate this weekend.

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Thankful for all the people who did the majority of the chores even if I did hire most of it out, they aren’t easy jobs.

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I accept I can’t do all things so learning to be ok with a messy house so I can work in the yard.

 

By: Kathie

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This is the phenomenon that allows us to get used to most anything. So, H.A. is already working its magic on me. Yes, I really love having an on-site office manager. Yes, I love that I was able to give her my desk and that I don’t even have a desk in my office any more. AND – it is an adjustment – an adjustment that felt better today than yesterday. This helps to remind me “this too shall pass” and that in all liklihood that tomorrow will be even easier than today was. THANK YOU Hedonic Adaptation! 🙂

Frank Clayton LPC

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I used to think people were crazy for liking to work in the yard but more and more and more I am becoming a believer. Not by anyone convincing me but pure experience. I was alone today until about 3pm. I went out at 8:30am to mow the lawn and continued to putter around – weeding the front flower bed, hedging, sweeping the walk, driveway and back patio. throwing away some dead leaves. ‘Cut away some intrusive trees. I just kept going. ‘Cleared some grass away from the sprinklers so they have room to do their job. I was able to set away the never-ending to-do list in my head and feel the passage of time. There is something really, well, “earthy” about working in the dirt. Calming. Pure. Basic. I really enjoyed it – and the weather was perfect!

Frank Clayton LPC

Frank Clayton LPC

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There are a few things I have been trying to make sure I do every day, but “shoulding” on myself has not been working. I am glad to say I have found something that works – a simple concept I learned as a kid: you don’t get to play until you get your chores done. So, I paired the three things I want to get done with three things I want to do. … So now I clean for at least 5 minutes before I play iPhone games, I journal for at least 5 minutes before I can go on Facebook (on my phone) and I check my to-do list before I do anything else on the computer. To make sure do this last one, I even changed the password on my laptop to special memory jogger to remind me. It feels amazing and empowering to know I have forged a system to make my life work.

Frank Clayton LPC

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Report from IPPA Conference, Day 2

Day two of the 2nd Congress of the International Positive Psychology Association was simply amazing.  I learned SO much!  At one point I laughed to my friend “Teacher!  My brain is full!”  Here’s a report of the day’s events:

It began with Ed Deci speaking about self-determination and its relationship to positive psychology – in other words: the self-fulfilling prophecy.  He showed scientific proof that believing that you are doomed and things will never get better can actually bring that about.  Using a simple analogy (of my own), if one is drowning and they really don’t think anyone will come to rescue them, they can behave based on this belief by not paddling and dying before help could arrive.  But Deci really wowed the crowd when he reported that studies repeatedly proved that external rewards kill off intrinsic motivation.  For instance, when we try to control our children either by giving them a reward for doing well (the carrot) or punishing them when they do not do well (the stick), we inadvertently are hindering our child’s innate love of learning!  You can bet I will be blogging more about this. Continue reading Report from IPPA Conference, Day 2

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happy workerA day off. Football. A way to mark the end of summer. That’s what Labor Day means to most Americans. But have you stopped and thought about what it’s really about? Labor Day was declared in the United Stated following the Pullman Strike in 1994. It was whisked through Congress by President Cleveland in hopes that the acknowledgment of the labor force would prevent further bloodshead. Bloodshead over a job. Workers had to bond together and rise up for things we now take for granted like a fair wage and safe working conditions. I invite you today to appreciate improved working conditions. You might even take a moment to appreciate your job or career. There are many without jobs right now. If you are so inclined, send good wishes to the unemployed and hope they can celebrate Labor Day next year and do so with a grateful heart.

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