6/19/15 – Evening Play, Ice Cream, and Lost Friends

Positive 1 Nice evening with Erin.We went to a funny play. Very small and intimate group, the actors were feet … More 6/19/15 – Evening Play, Ice Cream, and Lost Friends

6/3/15 – Neighbors, Nieces Dance Recital, and Swamp Cooler

Positive 1 That wind didn’t do any damage to my yard though some of the neighbors weren’t so lucky. Usually … More 6/3/15 – Neighbors, Nieces Dance Recital, and Swamp Cooler

Report from IPPA Conference, Day 2

Day two of the 2nd Congress of the International Positive Psychology Association was simply amazing.  I learned SO much!  At one point I laughed to my friend “Teacher!  My brain is full!”  Here’s a report of the day’s events:

It began with Ed Deci speaking about self-determination and its relationship to positive psychology – in other words: the self-fulfilling prophecy.  He showed scientific proof that believing that you are doomed and things will never get better can actually bring that about.  Using a simple analogy (of my own), if one is drowning and they really don’t think anyone will come to rescue them, they can behave based on this belief by not paddling and dying before help could arrive.  But Deci really wowed the crowd when he reported that studies repeatedly proved that external rewards kill off intrinsic motivation.  For instance, when we try to control our children either by giving them a reward for doing well (the carrot) or punishing them when they do not do well (the stick), we inadvertently are hindering our child’s innate love of learning!  You can bet I will be blogging more about this. Continue reading Report from IPPA Conference, Day 2

Do Your Kids a Favor: Argue in Front of Them

Okay, I know at first glance it seems strange to have a therapist suggesting that you argue in front of … More Do Your Kids a Favor: Argue in Front of Them

YOU Can Make a Positive Difference

One person has the ability to make a huge difference. You already made a difference – is it a positive one?