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My boss moved up my review so that is good I don’t have to worry for a week. I would rather get it over with Wednesday even if it meant working a bit tonight.

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Great WIB planning today the whole next year is done with just a few action items to complete.

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GG got her fur cut yea you can see her cute little face.

By: Kathie

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Fun night at Bunco. I am so happy I met this pleasant group of women.

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Had lunch today with an acquaintance that I am pretty sure will become a good friend. She has had such an interesting life experience. And has such an open soul. I am sure she will teach me some philosophies that will contribute to my life. (Reminds me of our Erin Emerson​)

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I thought I lost my Fitbit today but some how it had just worked it’s way over my strap to my back.  Huge dread quickly came then went away. I am glad I didn’t loose it .

By: Kathie

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I may be wrong but hearing my mom has the flu too gave me hope like it is something she can get over so I guess a little hope is better than none.

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I had a good time with my nephew at the aquarium. So good to see him doing so well with his treatment. And he has such a great attitude about his illness. The people there were great to answer all his questions.

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One of my sweet friends came to give me a hug and spend a little time. It really helped to lift my spirits. Yes sometimes I need a hug.

By: Kathie

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Yea another Christmas come and gone and this year was very easy, no stress.

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Someone I love is getting married today, I hope they will be happy. They are private so that is all I am saying.

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My funeral potatoes turned out despite having to make most of my sauce from scratch and it was even better so for now on no more canned soup, I will make it on my own.

By: Kathie

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Report from IPPA Conference, Day 3

Wow! What an absolutely amazing day! In case you’re just “tuning in”, today is day 3 of the 2nd Congress of the International Positive Psychology Association.
Here are the highlights:

  • Barbara Fredrickson (author of my #2 pick on Happiness, Positivity) talked about Love
  • Meeting Todd Kashdan and (what may be his last) talk at IPPA
  • Possible collaboration with positive psychologist and local, Lynn Johnson
  • Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy with a Positive Spin
  • Positive Computing
  • Meeting Jane McGonigal and using her on-line game to enhance Happiness 101
  • How much you think you can do something effects whether (and how hard) you try *
  • The use of strengths in therapy – the intermediate lesson *
  • Gala and the National Constitution Center *

* I will report on these tomorrow.

It was much cooler today. A blessing for my walk to my third download of information in the realm of positive psychology, a.k.a. Happiness! As I walked through City Hall in (literally) the heart of Philadelphia, I hummed a little tune. I was distracted by the richness and variety of the people as I walked. Per haps distracted enough by the suits, the homeless, the street venders, the skaters and the provocative dress, the song’s lyrics did not bubble to the surface until in the shadow of the Downtown Marriott. I murmured, “All you need is love. Bump-ba bump-ba bump. All you need is love. Bump-ba bump-ba bump. All you need is love, love – love is all you need.” As I realized I was humming a Beatles standard, I also realized that the topic of Barbara Fredrickson’s talk was “Love: A new lens on the science of thriving” Continue reading Report from IPPA Conference, Day 3

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Report from IPPA Conference, Day 2

Day two of the 2nd Congress of the International Positive Psychology Association was simply amazing.  I learned SO much!  At one point I laughed to my friend “Teacher!  My brain is full!”  Here’s a report of the day’s events:

It began with Ed Deci speaking about self-determination and its relationship to positive psychology – in other words: the self-fulfilling prophecy.  He showed scientific proof that believing that you are doomed and things will never get better can actually bring that about.  Using a simple analogy (of my own), if one is drowning and they really don’t think anyone will come to rescue them, they can behave based on this belief by not paddling and dying before help could arrive.  But Deci really wowed the crowd when he reported that studies repeatedly proved that external rewards kill off intrinsic motivation.  For instance, when we try to control our children either by giving them a reward for doing well (the carrot) or punishing them when they do not do well (the stick), we inadvertently are hindering our child’s innate love of learning!  You can bet I will be blogging more about this. Continue reading Report from IPPA Conference, Day 2

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road less travelledTherapists, even Happy Therapists, have their share of knocks in life. We just have a bigger tool belt to deal with it and we know and understand what we are going through. That does not mean we get a free pass from going through it – just like everybody else. Last week my best friend underwent open heart surgery. He could live, or he could die. Just like everyone else, I did not know which way the pendulum of fate would swing.
We all know the “What if” trail. However, in all my happy research I know there is always a choice. So instead of taking the “What if”s down the negative road, I took the road less traveled, and it truly has made a difference. I played the “What if” game to win. I thought “What if he lives? What if he comes out of this with a new lease on life? What if he marries the woman of his dreams? What if he has children (which he has always wanted)? What if he becomes healthy and happy?” Now, this mental game has taken a little effort – but with a GREAT payoff! Yes, it is true. Those other things could happen. But he could just as easily go down the path I choose to envision. If one has the choice to dwell on the bad and feel bad or dwell on the good and feel good, why would one choose the former and ignore the latter?

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