Positive #1: Feeling MUCH better today! This allowed me to get some laundry done, straighten up the house, do some dishes and (GASP!) take a walk! There’s something really special about that first venture out of the house after being inside for upwards of 24 hours. I am also grateful that my illness fell on a weekend that I may fulfill my calling this week in the capacity of therapist. 

Positive #2: Dominion online. I got to play one of my favorite games (Dominion) online with a friend today. It was great because we challenge one another mentally and got to banter back and forth using the game’s chat feature. One of the things I like about it is even if is the dead of night, because it is a game loved across the globe, you can always find someone to play with. I’ve actually had some very interesting conversations with people from Europe using that game. Oh! I guess the best thing about the game is it introduced me to the aforementioned friend. Social connection always gets double happiness points in my book  

Positive #3: World War Z. As zombie movies go, I really enjoyed it! It was good company while my body healed, which DISTRACTION is a huge part of the happiness strategy for coping. Believe me, it was so fast paced, there was not much time to slow down. The plot was quite feasible and I actually found myself choked up a couple of times (and how many zombie movies can you say that about?  Nice job, Brad Pitt!) Also the act of courage displayed at the end of the movie, I found to be inspirational.

 

Frank Clayton, The Happy Therapist

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Report from IPPA Conference, Day 2

Day two of the 2nd Congress of the International Positive Psychology Association was simply amazing.  I learned SO much!  At one point I laughed to my friend “Teacher!  My brain is full!”  Here’s a report of the day’s events:

It began with Ed Deci speaking about self-determination and its relationship to positive psychology – in other words: the self-fulfilling prophecy.  He showed scientific proof that believing that you are doomed and things will never get better can actually bring that about.  Using a simple analogy (of my own), if one is drowning and they really don’t think anyone will come to rescue them, they can behave based on this belief by not paddling and dying before help could arrive.  But Deci really wowed the crowd when he reported that studies repeatedly proved that external rewards kill off intrinsic motivation.  For instance, when we try to control our children either by giving them a reward for doing well (the carrot) or punishing them when they do not do well (the stick), we inadvertently are hindering our child’s innate love of learning!  You can bet I will be blogging more about this. Continue reading Report from IPPA Conference, Day 2

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