Positive #2: Brene Brown’s talk on TED about shame.

Wow! I love the concept of shame as a wonderful gift and a strength. She also talks about vulnerability as … More Positive #2: Brene Brown’s talk on TED about shame.

Report from IPPA Conference, Day 2

Day two of the 2nd Congress of the International Positive Psychology Association was simply amazing.  I learned SO much!  At one point I laughed to my friend “Teacher!  My brain is full!”  Here’s a report of the day’s events:

It began with Ed Deci speaking about self-determination and its relationship to positive psychology – in other words: the self-fulfilling prophecy.  He showed scientific proof that believing that you are doomed and things will never get better can actually bring that about.  Using a simple analogy (of my own), if one is drowning and they really don’t think anyone will come to rescue them, they can behave based on this belief by not paddling and dying before help could arrive.  But Deci really wowed the crowd when he reported that studies repeatedly proved that external rewards kill off intrinsic motivation.  For instance, when we try to control our children either by giving them a reward for doing well (the carrot) or punishing them when they do not do well (the stick), we inadvertently are hindering our child’s innate love of learning!  You can bet I will be blogging more about this. Continue reading Report from IPPA Conference, Day 2

The Key to Self-Esteem

In therapy, we talk a lot about positive affirmations. It is often use as a tool to replace negative beliefs. … More The Key to Self-Esteem

Take Responsibility For Your Happiness

A must for harnessing your Happiness is taking responsibility for it.

Diary of a Happy Therapist: I was Wrong and I am Hopeless

The Happy Therapist is a closet pessimist! Can this be?

I Apologize

I complained so here I make my apology by giving ten positives (one of them became quite a surprise).