Gather thee rosebuds while ye may”. Savor. A few weeks ago one of my positives described a wonderful few relaxing moments beneath a tree outside my office. The same day I discovered the tree had blown over. I was glad that we had a few minutes together beforehand. It is what I imagine is the best experience a tree can have (next to hugs of course).

Frank Clayton LPC

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Riding a roller coaster is a thrill because it gives us a sense of being out of control. Imagine if our lives were so controlled that every move was perfect and predictable. Having moments where I feel out of control gives me a thrill and helps to remind me how wonderful and exciting this life can be.

Frank Clayton LPC

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Today I had fun creating a profile on ted.com and commenting on some of the conversations. I even got a thumbs up for my comment about adult play grounds. It is so wonderful to be in a position to correspond with people from all over the world about favorite subjects – such as Happiness/Positive Psychology ūüôā

Frank Clayton LPC

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It is wonderful to see the positives, likes and comments fly among students of Happiness 101. It reminds me of the positive psychology axiom “What you appreciate, appreciates.” The positive energy is whipping into an upward spiral promising to sweep up the entire class. This is what it’s all about. It’s amazing to be part of it. It makes me wonder if this is what it’s like at the beginning, imagine how it’ll be at the end of class!

Frank Clayton LPC

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It was wonderful to see him and catch up. What a mirror as to how much time has gone by and how things have changed since 9/11. It was great to be open and authentic like it hadn’t been 3 years since we’ve shaken hands. Splendid.

 

Frank~The Happy Therapist

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Report from IPPA Conference, Day 2

Day two of the 2nd Congress of the International Positive Psychology Association was simply amazing. ¬†I learned SO much! ¬†At one point I laughed to my friend “Teacher! ¬†My brain is full!” ¬†Here’s a report of the day’s events:

It began with Ed Deci speaking about self-determination and its relationship to positive psychology – in other words: the self-fulfilling prophecy. ¬†He showed scientific proof that believing that you are doomed and things will never get better can actually bring that about. ¬†Using a simple analogy (of my own), if one is drowning and they really don’t think anyone will come to rescue them, they can behave based on this belief by not paddling and dying before help could arrive. ¬†But Deci really wowed the crowd when he reported that studies repeatedly proved that external rewards kill off intrinsic motivation. ¬†For instance, when we try to control our children either by giving them a reward for doing well (the carrot) or punishing them when they do not do well (the stick), we inadvertently are hindering our child’s innate love of learning! ¬†You can bet I will be blogging more about this. Continue reading Report from IPPA Conference, Day 2

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Frank arrives at IPPA

 

It is very late (1:30am here in Philadelphia) so today’s report will probably be fairly short, but I have SO many exciting things to share with you! ¬†Today was the first day of the 2nd Congress of the International Positive Psychology Association. ¬†I was SO excited as I entered the downtown Marriott for the first time. ¬†I saw a sign directing me up…. up…. (and away!) ¬†Once in the right place, registration was a snap. ¬†I was handed my IPPA bag and envelope (I felt like Charlie from Willie Wonka and the Chocolate Factory).
One great surprise is that tomorrow (Sunday, July 24th) the IPPA is holding Special Interest Groups (SIGs) during the lunch hour. ¬†There were several to choose from but I must say that I was happily shocked to see that Barbara Fredrickson will be hosting one of these SIGs. ¬†She is the author of Positivity, which is my second highest recommended book (next to Sonja Lyubomirsky’s book, The How of Happiness). ¬†She will be talking on Monday and will be closing out the conference with Richard Davidson on Tuesday, but to get Barbara in small venue is quite a treat! Continue reading Report from IPPA Conference, Day 1
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