If you know me at all, you know I am VERY picky about people I recommend, especially people espousing to know about Happiness. This guy actually “get it”. I listened to at least four of his podcasts this morning and I felt like I’d been to Happiness Church. He really gets it. Not once did I balk or even raise an eyebrow about anything he said. He studied with Don Miguel Ruiz who wrote The Four Agreements. So he is coming at the issue from a slightly different perspective, but that made it all that much better. I listened to his podcasts via iTunes but he also has several available on his website. Thanks to Gary van Warmerdam for spreading Happiness in his own unique way.


Frank Clayton PC

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Report from IPPA Conference, Day 2

Day two of the 2nd Congress of the International Positive Psychology Association was simply amazing.  I learned SO much!  At one point I laughed to my friend “Teacher!  My brain is full!”  Here’s a report of the day’s events:

It began with Ed Deci speaking about self-determination and its relationship to positive psychology – in other words: the self-fulfilling prophecy.  He showed scientific proof that believing that you are doomed and things will never get better can actually bring that about.  Using a simple analogy (of my own), if one is drowning and they really don’t think anyone will come to rescue them, they can behave based on this belief by not paddling and dying before help could arrive.  But Deci really wowed the crowd when he reported that studies repeatedly proved that external rewards kill off intrinsic motivation.  For instance, when we try to control our children either by giving them a reward for doing well (the carrot) or punishing them when they do not do well (the stick), we inadvertently are hindering our child’s innate love of learning!  You can bet I will be blogging more about this. Continue reading Report from IPPA Conference, Day 2

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Several years ago, I was diagnosed with sleep apnea and restless leg syndrome.  It’s been a few years since I have had a sleep study.  Tonight I will do another one.  Hey, where else can you go where they put a bunch of electrodes on ya, blow air in your face and then say “nighty night”.  It’s actually a pretty interesting and unique experience.

If you are always tired, even when you get plenty of sleep, I would suggest you get a sleep study done.

Frank Clayton, the Happy Therapist


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