Last night I watched the video of my daughter’s 2010 Thanksgiving visit. It was SO great! Curses! A snowball fight in my pajamas, a Beatles puzzle worthy of a 15 minute on-camera discussion followed by a Christmas tree hunt on VERY slick roads – an adventure that ended safely. I found myself laughing out loud and feeling close to my daughter as if she was here visiting again. Great memories.

Frank Clayton LPC

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We got her five days early! She is an amazing person. I am truly blessed to be part of her family. She leads by example and is one of those can-do people you find yourself in awe with. She always makes our home even warmer with her presence and tales of her latest adventure. I am SO happy that my wife gets extra time with her mom. Who knows what kind of mischief they will get into this time. I love my mother-in-law and am glad we get to spend time together.

Frank Clayton LPC

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B.J. the tow truck man in Page, Arizona. He was very nice and friendly and made our…. “adventure” even better. Read the full story on “Tow Truck Lifts Spirits” http://www.saltlakementalhealth.com/giving-thanks-in-a-tow-truck

 

Frank~The Happy Therapist

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Report from IPPA Conference, Day 2

Day two of the 2nd Congress of the International Positive Psychology Association was simply amazing.  I learned SO much!  At one point I laughed to my friend “Teacher!  My brain is full!”  Here’s a report of the day’s events:

It began with Ed Deci speaking about self-determination and its relationship to positive psychology – in other words: the self-fulfilling prophecy.  He showed scientific proof that believing that you are doomed and things will never get better can actually bring that about.  Using a simple analogy (of my own), if one is drowning and they really don’t think anyone will come to rescue them, they can behave based on this belief by not paddling and dying before help could arrive.  But Deci really wowed the crowd when he reported that studies repeatedly proved that external rewards kill off intrinsic motivation.  For instance, when we try to control our children either by giving them a reward for doing well (the carrot) or punishing them when they do not do well (the stick), we inadvertently are hindering our child’s innate love of learning!  You can bet I will be blogging more about this. Continue reading Report from IPPA Conference, Day 2

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Once a year, in the first week in March, an amazing group of people gather in Anchorage, Alaska to begin the Iditarod – one of the last real great races. Racing over 1,000 miles in freezing temperatures.

The prize is little more than half a million dollars, but honestly when you are (literally) out in the middle of Alaska with nothing but a sled and a pack of dogs – is it really about the money? These men and women do it for the the adventure; for the Alaska adventure. You can follow “The Last Great Race” by going to the www.iditarod.com

Frank Clayton, the Happy Therapist

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I thoroughly enjoyed doing the interview with Gary Stoddard today on the Happiness Boost. He was a joy to interview. It was a new adventure for him as well because he usually expresses himself in song, not so much in word. So, I thought a great companion to Positive #1 (the interview) would be one of his uplifting songs. This is called “New World” and a great sample of his work. Virtually all of his songs are uplifting in beat and in word. You can go to his website, www.garystoddard.com and purchase his music there. I would suggest “Silver Lining” – it’s my favorite.

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The snow upon waking this morning was beautiful to look at. Driving in it would be challenging and risky. I took care of myself (and my would-be passenger) by choosing not to go to the meeting. In Happiness 101 I talk a lot about choice and turning “have to”s into “get to”s. Many times I find that when I feel obligated to do something, it sucks the fun and adventure out of it. Making the choice to care for myself feels good.

Frank Clayton, the Happy Therapist

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